There is something of farce in all these mournings
Note by Heny Craik to Letters 58 from Journal To Stella

This is characteristic of Swift, in the intrusion of the sarcastic vein, even when his own grief was real and his sympathy strong. But it is to be noted that Lady Betty had, only five days before, given him food for sarcasm. He went, he says, to ' see Lady Betty Butler grieving for her sister Ashburnham. The jade was in bed in form, and she did so cant, she made me sick.'